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On the battlefield of love, flirting is simply a weapon in the vast trunk of your arsenal. Flirting is an art that must be used carefully and tastefully. For some women, getting a guy to ask you out may seem like the hardest thing to do, especially when women like Modern Family's Sofia Vergara can get old men to flock to her. If you feel like you have been playing the waiting game for far too long, maybe it's time to take it old school and ask him out yourself! "WHAT?! No way!" you might say, but men love women who are confident. In order to successfully pull off "The Sadie Hawkins", the key is to be as subtle as possible. Men do not like to feel pressured or emasculated in any situation. Another key to success is to be yourself--If a man can't appreciate who you are, then asking him out would be a waste anyway. Now let's begin! Many women tend to find their interests in places of convenience: work, church, school, etc. With finding men in places of convenience, we must also take into account that these are also places where our attendance is dependent so it is important to be careful with forming relationships with people in these settings. The advantage to being in the same proximity as your crush is that you most likely have a good idea of what this person's likes and dislikes are. If you have never spoken to this person beforehand that's ok--Find a way to start up a small conversation with that person, even starting with a casual "run-in" and a "how are you?" can spark even the smallest interest. Making yourself known allows that person to think about you more subjectively. Like I mentioned before, you want to be subtle when asking a man out on a date. Start with drinks after work or try asking him to join you for lunch on your work break-- even grabbing coffee together puts both of you in a more casual and relaxing setting. If you are crushing at a distance and you have never engaged with this person more than stalking their FB page... well there's a little bit more work for you. With all first impressions, you want that person to look at you in a certain light whether that's professionally, friendly, or sexually. In this case, we want to veer away from sex symbol and lean more towards "the girl next door". This simply means that you do not want to approach a man oozing pheromones from the nearest sex store or provocatively waving your jugs in his face. If you want an honest chance with the guy, save some things for him to dream about. The best thing for you to do when approaching him for the first time, is to wear a smile and a great personality--and a decent amount of clothes!
Contributed by Jabria Lucille Tillman Howington