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Most people do not know of the various branches of BDSM. Common knowledge would state that there is only a "slave" and a "master". However what most people don't know is that there are many different subtitles under BDSM. They include: Baby girl and Daddy Dom, Baby boy and Mommy Dom, Mistress and slave (girl/boy), Master and slave (boy/girl), and Mentor and mentee. Under those subtitles are identifiers. Identifiers are where a dominant or a submissive place themselves. These are: tops, bottoms, switches, dominant, brat, SAMs, slaves and more. Each give a foundation to both the Dominant and the Submissive. At the beginning of any relationship it is difficult to place who does what. However in the world of BDSM it happens to be a bit simpler. Honing the title one has given him or herself, they know what is expected of them. In any case, the world of BDSM has rules that both parties abide by. These rules can contain their dislikes and likes, how they want to be treated, when it is appropriate to act a certain way. To an extent this can be described as a contract. The contract places boundaries and sets up the foundation of the relationship. Furthermore the term "relationship" is broadened. Most of the people in the BDSM world do not consider their partners as boyfriend/girlfriend. One goes to the extent of their title and that's all. But others take it to another extent and often marry their partners. Most take up the BDSM tradition of collaring. Collaring is the ceremony in which a Dominant places a collar on their submissive. The collar symbolizes not only who the sub belongs to but who the submissive chose to belong to. The idea of choice is often muddled in society's interpretation of BDSM. Often people assume that a submissive does not have a choice or that it is degrading to be a submissive. However those in the lifestyle will tell you that those people are wrong. The submissive chose to be under the care of the Dominant. One could always back out if they wanted to. Also, as stated earlier, there are rules and a contract. Henceforth both parties must agree and follow. If not it is null and void.Being a submissive is a choice that most would say is liberating and very enjoyable.
Contributed by Manuella Disla